I’m being called to make this simple change…

Date: April 23, 2015

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Even as a writer I try not  to get too attached to words. For me, I focus on the intention behind them as I believe that is what has the greater impact.

In University I studied linguistics as part of my psychology degree, and later as a child therapist I had to throw out everything I thought I knew and learn how to communicate non-verbally with many of the children I worked with.

This is when I realised how powerful intention and energy are in terms of how we relate to and connect with others.

As a result I’ve become more and more aware of the intention behind my words (a brilliant practice in mindfulness and being present in the moment) and the impact that my words have.

In this video I talk about a simple experiment I created to reduce the struggle I felt when faced with challenges. It’s so simple, but it has had a profound affect on my perception and therefore how I respond to the situation.

It has also affected how I communicate with others, particularly when offering support and advice. This new approach allows them to reach within themselves to find an answer that provides them with more comfort, clarity, and confidence.

Click the video below to join me in making this simple change.

 

 

 

As I mentioned in the video, I would love to hear from you.

Comment below or send me an email at kira@kirajean.com, and sign up for my mailing list so we can stay in touch. I will continue to support you on your journey towards leading from within.

With love,

Kira x x

How to own your special gifts and talents.

Date: April 8, 2015

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Today I released the need to justify my talents and gifts.

I came to realise recently that when I talk to others about something I am doing, a blessing I have received, or anything wonderful that has/is happening in my life, I find myself justifying it.

 

For example I say things like “oh yes, but I’ve worked hard for it”, “yeah, well, it’s not that big of a deal”, “oh, I’m just trying it out, I’m not really sure what I’m doing”.

I realised that in some way I was trying to explain myself. Explain my gifts and all the good things I had in my life, rather than owning them.

 

Of course, the above statements are in some respect true, but they are not the whole truth. Yes I do work hard, but that is not the only reason I’m successful. Yes, I have had many blessings in my life, but not because “I suffered enough already” and the other things I say to justify it, but because it is my divine right to receive such blessings.

 

As I reflected on this insight I realised how easily I could own the not-so-good things happening in my life.

 

Oh yeah, that ‘stuff’ – it was all my fault. I could own that. Then try to fix it. No problem. After all, I have always been good at being hard on myself.

 

But today I released the need to justify all the good (and ‘bad’) things in my life and simply OWN them.

 

Because this is the real truth –

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5 Ways Leading From Within Will Change Your Life.

Date: March 22, 2015

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My friend,

You were born to lead.

You were born to lead millions of people, hundreds, or a lucky few.

Or… perhaps you were born to lead one person – a very lucky one.

Or maybe, just maybe, you were born to lead yourself.  You were born to follow the wisdom of your own heart and mind, and blaze a trail that reveals itself only as you courageously walk along it.

This is what I call leading from within, and it is what I deeply believe in, consistently commit to, and teach others how to do.

Leading from within empowers you to make wise decisions and act based on a deeper understanding and knowing.

This kind of leadership, once you’re tuned into it, flows easily. It’s not forced, aggressive or controlling. It produces positive results, and can help you balance your relationships, both personally and professionally. You become a magnet, and easily attract the people and resources you need in order to lead and live a fun and fulfilling life.

If you feel called to lead in some way, it’s important your leadership comes not from ego, but from sharing your gifts and story with the world. It needs to come from the soul, from a deep place of wanting to empower others and affect positive change.

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The Final 5.  Why You Just Can’t Go All the Way.

Date: March 2, 2015

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Hey gorgeous.

Today’s topic came out of my own struggle the last couple of weeks.  I’ve been falling into old habits, sabotaging my own growth and success, and applying what I know to overcome it.  I’ve been able to move through the struggle and step into my power to choose.

So let’s talk about this Final 5.

5 pounds.

5 more tasks to complete.

5 more things to do that will totally transform your life and deeply fulfil you.

5% more “stuff” to move through, and you’ll be there.  In it.  Your dream life.

BUT YOU WON’T DO THEM.  IT DOESN’T HAPPEN.  YOU CAN’T SHIFT IT.

You’re taking action and moving towards living a happier, healthier life.

You’re ahead of the game in many ways and a lot further along the path than most.

You know you’ve got what it takes.

You know you can beat this thing.  You CAN change.  You ARE already, and you’ve already done so well.

And there it is.

You’ve already done so well… and what usually follows is… loosen up honey… take it easy honey… it’s enough now.

But is it?

Have you really stepped up into your full blown capacity and given it your best shot?

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What happened when I let it all go and went with the flow.

Date: February 21, 2015

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Going with the flow for me, means being totally in tune with my own flow.

Our energy is changing all the time, and there is a natural flow, a natural cycle that reveals itself if we open up to it.

 

What I’ve been noticing lately is how challenging it is to be in my own flow in a world where everything is flowing, and not always in the same way I am.

In my work especially, I feel pressure to get things done and push harder, even on the days I really feel like sitting on the sofa with a cup of tea and staring into space.

 

On the flip side, this past week I’ve had ridiculous amounts of energy.  I been waking up with a spring in my step, despite hardly sleeping and working late.

There was a part of me that thought I should “try” to create some balance.  That I should back away from the high energy.

I was scared I would burn out. I was scared it wouldn’t last, and I really felt like I should try to “control” it more.

Yes, of course.  It was best to “tame” it, to calm down, take it easy, and not dive deep into it.

 

What is it about intense energy/emotion that we fear so much?

Everyone else fears it. I even feared it myself.

It’s like it shouldn’t be there. It feels…..

unpredictable.

We want it, well we say we do, but when we get it we want to turn back, we want to stay within the walls of our comfort zone.

Is it really THAT comfortable living at half-mast?

 

If we were to run with it, the fast-paced, passion-fuelled energy, we’ll be judged.

Reckless.

Not taking care of herself.

Wild.

Too “out-there”.

You know what I mean?

 

And what if we don’t? We don’t run with it.

What if we don’t go with the flow when it comes?

What if we push it down?

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Stretching into Stillness.

Date: February 13, 2015

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Stillness is both one of our most desired and most feared things in the world.

We crave stillness.

We crave it like crazy.

We just want a break, a chance to take a breath and sit still for a second.

BUT… when we have the chance to, we run from it and get busy doing, well, anything.

Why? Because we’re not used to it. It feels really uncomfortable and awkward.

For me, I know I just feel guilty sometimes. I know it sounds crazy, but I feel like I’m being selfish if I rest, like there’s too many other things I should be doing.

For the past decade I have journeyed towards stretching into stillness. And by stretching, I mean it’s literally been a stretch for me.

It’s been a huge challenge, and required a lot of un-learning, a deep commitment, and a strong willingness to explore my own discomfort and fear.

What I’ve come to realise is stillness of the mind is what is needed more than anything. We know when we’re physically moving and expending energy, but most of us are unaware of how much mental movement is going on. We’re always thinking. Judging. Questioning. Analysing. And this is using up so much of our energy.

The first step however, is to physically stretch into stillness. I personally love to practice yoga. I stretch, bend, and twist my body, and expel a lot of the energy I have that would otherwise be scattered around during my day on a never-ending to-do list and a lot of unfinished tasks. Read More

What’s Your Big Fear? The one that has a hold on you.

Date: January 3, 2015

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What’s your BIG fear? I mean really. What is it that scares the life out of you? It stops you in your tracks, you freeze up, close up, or run for cover.

What is it?

What is that fear?

The one that has a hold on you.

 

You probably don’t even know what it is. You have a lot of small fears, and those you could reel off to me without a problem. Those fears you can face. Because it’s easier. It’s easier to face those fears than face your really BIG fear.

You cover up your big fear in a bunch of small fears, to validate having a fear, but to avoid looking at the real fear too closely.

What is it about it that shakes you to your core?

What is it about that fear that makes you feel small, powerless, helpless?

What is your BIG fear?

What is it deep down that has a hold on you?

It makes you sick from the inside to even acknowledge it’s there.

You pipe up with all that resistance and defiance, and you probably want to scream at me right now, or simply dismiss me as someone who’s trying to stir up sh*t, stir up all that unnecessary stuff.

You know there’s no point in waking up the sleeping monster. What good will it do? Read More

Happy Holidays!

Date: December 24, 2014

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Happy Holidays! Check out the video below for my Happy Holidays message and a little special something I’ve created for you for the year ahead. I’m so psyched for 2015 and in this video you’ll find out why.

Stay safe and stay strong. Best wishes for the holiday season.

Love always, Kira x x

Forget Google. Here’s where you’ll find your answers . {the art of journaling}.

Date: December 12, 2014

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It’s my belief and understanding that we have access to all the answers we seek. The majority of answers lie deep within, and are only found through stillness, breakdowns, and breakthroughs. The other kind of answers come to us when we are open to receiving. Many answers appear subtly in our lives, and we assume they are coincidences or unrelated. The best place to look when confused, anxious, unsure, and pensive, is within.

But the problem is, we rarely ever look in that direction. We are taught to seek answers outside of ourselves in external circumstances, information, and even in the opinions of others.

I want to be clear, the answers I refer to are the ones that are “heavily-loaded”. They are emotionally charged and our need for clarity, certainty, and understanding, yet the lack of it, creates emotional imbalance and turmoil in our lives.

Seeking new information is not a bad thing. Searching for an answer to an intellectual question, might be frustrating at times at the most, but it’s usually not heavily charged with emotion. Similarly, seeking to learn understand and the wisdom of others is also desirable and necessary. Read More

Are you getting in the way of someone else’s healing?

Date: December 1, 2014

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I want to be completely honest with you.  I haven’t been serving you in the full capacity I know I can.  I’ve been hiding a little bit.  I’ve been playing it safe.  And it’s not working.  It’s not what’s right for me, and therefore it’s not what’s best for you.

I’m kind, reasonable, and calm by nature, but I’m also realistic, practical, and pretty good at telling hard truths.  So consider this a little warning.  :) Things are going to be shaken up here, and as a result bigger, scarier, deeper, transformations are going to happen!

One of the challenges we face is balancing our desire to help others and be of service with having our own personal boundaries, and an ability to stand back and allow another person to go through whatever it is they may be experiencing at that time.  I don’t say this as though I’ve mastered it.  It’s something I continuously work on.  As someone who works in the health and healing industry it’s so important that we understand the ways in which we can sometimes, unknowingly, interfere with another person’s healing. Read More