Feel good about yourself and stop the trash-talking!

Date: May 25, 2015

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I want you to feel good about yourself.

I want you to accept a compliment with grace and gratitude.

I want you to know how brilliant you really are.

I want you to know how beautiful you really are.

I want you to own it.

Own it all.

Everything single thing about you!

And I want that for me too.

Listen to this podcast to hear about the new commitment I’ve made to myself.

I am sure you will feel motivated to make the same commitment too.

 

Please get in touch with me at kira@kirajean.com, I would love to support you in your commitment towards self-love.

As I mentioned in the podcast below are the links I recommend you check out:

The Body Image Movement Video

Trash-talking an apple

Onwards and upwards my friend.

Let’s work on this together.

Self-love.

Not the wishy-washy kind.

The “I’m freakin’ over feeling crap about myself, my life, and everything else in between!” kind.

I’ve committed to practicing self-love even more.

And to loving my life – totally.

Are you in?

Lots of love, Kira x x

How to create a positive environment in which you THRIVE.

Date: March 17, 2015

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Hi there.

If you follow me on Instagram you would have noticed I’ve been posting a lot of photos relating to the new home I am creating with my husband.

We have recently purchased our first home together and I have found the process of moving in and decorating it both incredibly challenging and rewarding.

I’ve always been sensitive to my environment.  I went through a stage during my adolescence when my walls were covered from floor to ceiling with posters of pop-stars and my floor was used for clothes storage as I threw things around when deciding what to wear every morning.  When I moved out of my family home things got a lot more simple.

I lived in four different houses within three years, and each time, I did whatever I could to create a sanctuary for myself.  For the most part the only furniture I had was a bed, and sometimes a chest of drawers.  Still, I would burn candles, buy fresh flowers, display photos of family and friends and invest in some second-hand accessories to create a sweet space around from the world that I could retreat to.

Usually I was financially restricted as to how I could fit-out my room.  I was living in shared accommodation and I had a small space in which to work with.  But I refused to come in after a hectic day at work and not feel relaxed and happy to be home.

A house is very different from a home.  A home is a physical and material expression of yourself.  A cluttered home is a sign of a cluttered mind, colours affect our mood and photographs and trinkets gathered on travels bring back memories.

Most importantly the energy of the place you live in needs to be one your comfortable with.

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The Final 5.  Why You Just Can’t Go All the Way.

Date: March 2, 2015

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Hey gorgeous.

Today’s topic came out of my own struggle the last couple of weeks.  I’ve been falling into old habits, sabotaging my own growth and success, and applying what I know to overcome it.  I’ve been able to move through the struggle and step into my power to choose.

So let’s talk about this Final 5.

5 pounds.

5 more tasks to complete.

5 more things to do that will totally transform your life and deeply fulfil you.

5% more “stuff” to move through, and you’ll be there.  In it.  Your dream life.

BUT YOU WON’T DO THEM.  IT DOESN’T HAPPEN.  YOU CAN’T SHIFT IT.

You’re taking action and moving towards living a happier, healthier life.

You’re ahead of the game in many ways and a lot further along the path than most.

You know you’ve got what it takes.

You know you can beat this thing.  You CAN change.  You ARE already, and you’ve already done so well.

And there it is.

You’ve already done so well… and what usually follows is… loosen up honey… take it easy honey… it’s enough now.

But is it?

Have you really stepped up into your full blown capacity and given it your best shot?

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What happened when I let it all go and went with the flow.

Date: February 21, 2015

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Going with the flow for me, means being totally in tune with my own flow.

Our energy is changing all the time, and there is a natural flow, a natural cycle that reveals itself if we open up to it.

 

What I’ve been noticing lately is how challenging it is to be in my own flow in a world where everything is flowing, and not always in the same way I am.

In my work especially, I feel pressure to get things done and push harder, even on the days I really feel like sitting on the sofa with a cup of tea and staring into space.

 

On the flip side, this past week I’ve had ridiculous amounts of energy.  I been waking up with a spring in my step, despite hardly sleeping and working late.

There was a part of me that thought I should “try” to create some balance.  That I should back away from the high energy.

I was scared I would burn out. I was scared it wouldn’t last, and I really felt like I should try to “control” it more.

Yes, of course.  It was best to “tame” it, to calm down, take it easy, and not dive deep into it.

 

What is it about intense energy/emotion that we fear so much?

Everyone else fears it. I even feared it myself.

It’s like it shouldn’t be there. It feels…..

unpredictable.

We want it, well we say we do, but when we get it we want to turn back, we want to stay within the walls of our comfort zone.

Is it really THAT comfortable living at half-mast?

 

If we were to run with it, the fast-paced, passion-fuelled energy, we’ll be judged.

Reckless.

Not taking care of herself.

Wild.

Too “out-there”.

You know what I mean?

 

And what if we don’t? We don’t run with it.

What if we don’t go with the flow when it comes?

What if we push it down?

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What’s Your Big Fear? The one that has a hold on you.

Date: January 3, 2015

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What’s your BIG fear? I mean really. What is it that scares the life out of you? It stops you in your tracks, you freeze up, close up, or run for cover.

What is it?

What is that fear?

The one that has a hold on you.

 

You probably don’t even know what it is. You have a lot of small fears, and those you could reel off to me without a problem. Those fears you can face. Because it’s easier. It’s easier to face those fears than face your really BIG fear.

You cover up your big fear in a bunch of small fears, to validate having a fear, but to avoid looking at the real fear too closely.

What is it about it that shakes you to your core?

What is it about that fear that makes you feel small, powerless, helpless?

What is your BIG fear?

What is it deep down that has a hold on you?

It makes you sick from the inside to even acknowledge it’s there.

You pipe up with all that resistance and defiance, and you probably want to scream at me right now, or simply dismiss me as someone who’s trying to stir up sh*t, stir up all that unnecessary stuff.

You know there’s no point in waking up the sleeping monster. What good will it do? Read More

Forget Google. Here’s where you’ll find your answers . {the art of journaling}.

Date: December 12, 2014

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It’s my belief and understanding that we have access to all the answers we seek. The majority of answers lie deep within, and are only found through stillness, breakdowns, and breakthroughs. The other kind of answers come to us when we are open to receiving. Many answers appear subtly in our lives, and we assume they are coincidences or unrelated. The best place to look when confused, anxious, unsure, and pensive, is within.

But the problem is, we rarely ever look in that direction. We are taught to seek answers outside of ourselves in external circumstances, information, and even in the opinions of others.

I want to be clear, the answers I refer to are the ones that are “heavily-loaded”. They are emotionally charged and our need for clarity, certainty, and understanding, yet the lack of it, creates emotional imbalance and turmoil in our lives.

Seeking new information is not a bad thing. Searching for an answer to an intellectual question, might be frustrating at times at the most, but it’s usually not heavily charged with emotion. Similarly, seeking to learn understand and the wisdom of others is also desirable and necessary. Read More

How to turn things around and take back control when faced with challenges.

Date: October 12, 2014

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Often our biggest challenge is not the actual challenge or problem we face, but our struggle to stay grounded, connected, and clear in our mind when we face it.

Challenges bring up all kinds of emotions and thoughts, and it’s often hard to separate ourselves from our emotional and mental tangle to look at the challenge clearly.

You make your wisest decisions when you are grounded in clarity and confidence, but certain thoughts and emotions can get in the way of that.

In today’s v-log I share with you my insight on something I have been struggling with myself, and I explain what simple tool I used to overcome my personal challenges, and become grounded in clarity and confidence again. Read More

Overcome perfectionism and create your own brand of fabulous.

Date: September 30, 2014

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“I’m so amazing.  I’m perfect.  In every way.  I was born that way!”.

 

Ha!  Do you know what happened when I just said that to myself?  This voice came into my head and said “oh my god, who do you think you are”, “what will people think of you if you actually publish that!”.

I’ve heard this kind of self-trash-talk sooooo many times before.  It’s annoying, unnecessary, repetitive, and just plain old boring!

Now I laugh at these kind of rubbish thoughts and do whatever I want anyway.  But I tell you, it wasn’t always that way.
 

So now it’s your turn to try this little experiment. Go on.

 

Say to yourself, “I’m so amazing.  I’m perfect.  In every way.  I was born that way!”.

 

What was your next thought after this statement?

Was it mean?  Degrading?  Was it sheer disbelief?  Was it, Kira’s gone mad, what’s this rubbish she’s talking about?  Was it laughter?  Ridicule? Read More

The only fashion advice I’ll ever give you.

Date: September 17, 2014

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Hi gorgeous one,

Today the funniest thing happened.  I was in my car, which is where most of my good ideas show up for me, and I had this hilarious thing come to my mind.  A story I wanted to share with you.  I wasn’t sure if I should share it or not, but then I thought “oh well, what the hell”.  Let me warn you now though, this is probably the closest you’re ever going to get to receiving fashion advice from me.

I’m an inside out kind of woman.

I believe taking care of my mind, body, and soul is where the true beauty lies.  In saying that, I do love me a little fashion.  What I wear is one of the ways I express myself.  And to be honest, it’s not so much about what I wear, but more about how I feel when I wear it.It’s only been recently though, that I’ve felt like my outside truly reflects who am I am on the inside.

In the beginning of my yoga journey, I quickly subscribed to the idea that beauty lies within – exclusively.  I rejected the idea of taking care of the “outer me”, and became negligent about my appearance, to say the least.  On the flip side, there’s been times pre-yoga when I’ve been overly obsessed with my appearance.  At this point in my life I was lacking awareness of the depth and value of my inner qualities.

To sum it up, in the last few years I’ve gone from a back-packing homeless yogi, to living in a big villa in Dubai, with more luxury surrounding me than I ever thought possible. Read More

How to have better boundaries as “a helper”. My tips to help you NOT be drained by other people’s problems.

Date: September 8, 2014

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In my coaching I often coach people quite similar to me.  They’re helpers.  They want to help others.  They want to improve themselves, and the world.

Usually these clients come to me with a great level of resistance.  It’s hard for them to admit they need support.  That they’re not coping.

They come to me at a point when they’re burnt out, dried up, and disconnected from themselves and their own needs.

Their energy has been focused so outwardly they have spent their own reserves and forgotten to help themselves.

I find it so rewarding offering my guidance to these kinds of people, because this is something I have struggled with my whole life.  I know how hard it is as a helper to have boundaries.

It’s hard to know when to pull back and let go.

I believe helping others is one of the greatest gifts we can give to the world.  However, helping others does not serve them, you, or the world, if it leaves you depleted, burnt out, and resentful.

 

“Remember, if you ever need a helping hand you’ll find one at the end of your arm.

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