I’m being called to make this simple change…

Date: April 23, 2015

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Even as a writer I try not  to get too attached to words. For me, I focus on the intention behind them as I believe that is what has the greater impact.

In University I studied linguistics as part of my psychology degree, and later as a child therapist I had to throw out everything I thought I knew and learn how to communicate non-verbally with many of the children I worked with.

This is when I realised how powerful intention and energy are in terms of how we relate to and connect with others.

As a result I’ve become more and more aware of the intention behind my words (a brilliant practice in mindfulness and being present in the moment) and the impact that my words have.

In this video I talk about a simple experiment I created to reduce the struggle I felt when faced with challenges. It’s so simple, but it has had a profound affect on my perception and therefore how I respond to the situation.

It has also affected how I communicate with others, particularly when offering support and advice. This new approach allows them to reach within themselves to find an answer that provides them with more comfort, clarity, and confidence.

Click the video below to join me in making this simple change.

 

 

 

As I mentioned in the video, I would love to hear from you.

Comment below or send me an email at kira@kirajean.com, and sign up for my mailing list so we can stay in touch. I will continue to support you on your journey towards leading from within.

With love,

Kira x x

Kira in the Middle of a MELTDOWN.

Date: March 10, 2015

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I have no idea if this podcast will be useful for you.

I simply felt guided to record myself in the middle of a semi-meltdown.

I was totally trying to control everything, to the point of really working myself up  into a highly stressed state.

The situation itself wasn’t stressful at all, rather my attachments and need to control EVERYTHING were getting in the way of me being present and calm in the moment.

Through this experience I gained huge insight into what was really important to me.  You’ll hear me talk about my journey from a girl with a backpack to know having a wonderful home that I adore.

Challenges are one of our greatest teachers.

As you listen to this recording you will notice how I was able to witness my reaction to the situation and turn it around with a simple prayer and by being compassionate towards myself.

I recorded this podcast while in the middle of this high stress, controlling, fear-based emotional state, so I ramble on for awhile until I reach a point of understanding, compassion, and finally release from the fear and need to control. Read More

The Final 5.  Why You Just Can’t Go All the Way.

Date: March 2, 2015

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Hey gorgeous.

Today’s topic came out of my own struggle the last couple of weeks.  I’ve been falling into old habits, sabotaging my own growth and success, and applying what I know to overcome it.  I’ve been able to move through the struggle and step into my power to choose.

So let’s talk about this Final 5.

5 pounds.

5 more tasks to complete.

5 more things to do that will totally transform your life and deeply fulfil you.

5% more “stuff” to move through, and you’ll be there.  In it.  Your dream life.

BUT YOU WON’T DO THEM.  IT DOESN’T HAPPEN.  YOU CAN’T SHIFT IT.

You’re taking action and moving towards living a happier, healthier life.

You’re ahead of the game in many ways and a lot further along the path than most.

You know you’ve got what it takes.

You know you can beat this thing.  You CAN change.  You ARE already, and you’ve already done so well.

And there it is.

You’ve already done so well… and what usually follows is… loosen up honey… take it easy honey… it’s enough now.

But is it?

Have you really stepped up into your full blown capacity and given it your best shot?

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Stretching into Stillness.

Date: February 13, 2015

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Stillness is both one of our most desired and most feared things in the world.

We crave stillness.

We crave it like crazy.

We just want a break, a chance to take a breath and sit still for a second.

BUT… when we have the chance to, we run from it and get busy doing, well, anything.

Why? Because we’re not used to it. It feels really uncomfortable and awkward.

For me, I know I just feel guilty sometimes. I know it sounds crazy, but I feel like I’m being selfish if I rest, like there’s too many other things I should be doing.

For the past decade I have journeyed towards stretching into stillness. And by stretching, I mean it’s literally been a stretch for me.

It’s been a huge challenge, and required a lot of un-learning, a deep commitment, and a strong willingness to explore my own discomfort and fear.

What I’ve come to realise is stillness of the mind is what is needed more than anything. We know when we’re physically moving and expending energy, but most of us are unaware of how much mental movement is going on. We’re always thinking. Judging. Questioning. Analysing. And this is using up so much of our energy.

The first step however, is to physically stretch into stillness. I personally love to practice yoga. I stretch, bend, and twist my body, and expel a lot of the energy I have that would otherwise be scattered around during my day on a never-ending to-do list and a lot of unfinished tasks. Read More

Are you getting in the way of someone else’s healing?

Date: December 1, 2014

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I want to be completely honest with you.  I haven’t been serving you in the full capacity I know I can.  I’ve been hiding a little bit.  I’ve been playing it safe.  And it’s not working.  It’s not what’s right for me, and therefore it’s not what’s best for you.

I’m kind, reasonable, and calm by nature, but I’m also realistic, practical, and pretty good at telling hard truths.  So consider this a little warning.  :) Things are going to be shaken up here, and as a result bigger, scarier, deeper, transformations are going to happen!

One of the challenges we face is balancing our desire to help others and be of service with having our own personal boundaries, and an ability to stand back and allow another person to go through whatever it is they may be experiencing at that time.  I don’t say this as though I’ve mastered it.  It’s something I continuously work on.  As someone who works in the health and healing industry it’s so important that we understand the ways in which we can sometimes, unknowingly, interfere with another person’s healing. Read More

How to have better boundaries as “a helper”. My tips to help you NOT be drained by other people’s problems.

Date: September 8, 2014

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In my coaching I often coach people quite similar to me.  They’re helpers.  They want to help others.  They want to improve themselves, and the world.

Usually these clients come to me with a great level of resistance.  It’s hard for them to admit they need support.  That they’re not coping.

They come to me at a point when they’re burnt out, dried up, and disconnected from themselves and their own needs.

Their energy has been focused so outwardly they have spent their own reserves and forgotten to help themselves.

I find it so rewarding offering my guidance to these kinds of people, because this is something I have struggled with my whole life.  I know how hard it is as a helper to have boundaries.

It’s hard to know when to pull back and let go.

I believe helping others is one of the greatest gifts we can give to the world.  However, helping others does not serve them, you, or the world, if it leaves you depleted, burnt out, and resentful.

 

“Remember, if you ever need a helping hand you’ll find one at the end of your arm.

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Save time and energy: my top 10 tips for working (and living!) smarter

Date: August 11, 2014

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The world today is on high speed.

I’m not against the speed, I’m a fast mover myself.  If I have an idea, dream, or realisation I swiftly move towards making it happen, or at the very least taking steps towards it. Read More

Detox your body with this simple breathing exercise.

Date: August 4, 2014

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Today I share with you a simple practice that will drastically improve your mental and emotional wellbeing.

I show you how to start detoxing your body effectively. Read More