Kira in the Middle of a MELTDOWN.

Date: March 10, 2015

posted by kira jean / Comments: No Comments / Tags: , , , , , , , , ,

I have no idea if this podcast will be useful for you.

I simply felt guided to record myself in the middle of a semi-meltdown.

I was totally trying to control everything, to the point of really working myself up  into a highly stressed state.

The situation itself wasn’t stressful at all, rather my attachments and need to control EVERYTHING were getting in the way of me being present and calm in the moment.

Through this experience I gained huge insight into what was really important to me.  You’ll hear me talk about my journey from a girl with a backpack to know having a wonderful home that I adore.

Challenges are one of our greatest teachers.

As you listen to this recording you will notice how I was able to witness my reaction to the situation and turn it around with a simple prayer and by being compassionate towards myself.

I recorded this podcast while in the middle of this high stress, controlling, fear-based emotional state, so I ramble on for awhile until I reach a point of understanding, compassion, and finally release from the fear and need to control. Read More

The Final 5.  Why You Just Can’t Go All the Way.

Date: March 2, 2015

posted by kira jean / Comments: No Comments / Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , ,

Hey gorgeous.

Today’s topic came out of my own struggle the last couple of weeks.  I’ve been falling into old habits, sabotaging my own growth and success, and applying what I know to overcome it.  I’ve been able to move through the struggle and step into my power to choose.

So let’s talk about this Final 5.

5 pounds.

5 more tasks to complete.

5 more things to do that will totally transform your life and deeply fulfil you.

5% more “stuff” to move through, and you’ll be there.  In it.  Your dream life.

BUT YOU WON’T DO THEM.  IT DOESN’T HAPPEN.  YOU CAN’T SHIFT IT.

You’re taking action and moving towards living a happier, healthier life.

You’re ahead of the game in many ways and a lot further along the path than most.

You know you’ve got what it takes.

You know you can beat this thing.  You CAN change.  You ARE already, and you’ve already done so well.

And there it is.

You’ve already done so well… and what usually follows is… loosen up honey… take it easy honey… it’s enough now.

But is it?

Have you really stepped up into your full blown capacity and given it your best shot?

Read More

What happened when I let it all go and went with the flow.

Date: February 21, 2015

posted by kira jean / Comments: No Comments / Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , ,

Going with the flow for me, means being totally in tune with my own flow.

Our energy is changing all the time, and there is a natural flow, a natural cycle that reveals itself if we open up to it.

 

What I’ve been noticing lately is how challenging it is to be in my own flow in a world where everything is flowing, and not always in the same way I am.

In my work especially, I feel pressure to get things done and push harder, even on the days I really feel like sitting on the sofa with a cup of tea and staring into space.

 

On the flip side, this past week I’ve had ridiculous amounts of energy.  I been waking up with a spring in my step, despite hardly sleeping and working late.

There was a part of me that thought I should “try” to create some balance.  That I should back away from the high energy.

I was scared I would burn out. I was scared it wouldn’t last, and I really felt like I should try to “control” it more.

Yes, of course.  It was best to “tame” it, to calm down, take it easy, and not dive deep into it.

 

What is it about intense energy/emotion that we fear so much?

Everyone else fears it. I even feared it myself.

It’s like it shouldn’t be there. It feels…..

unpredictable.

We want it, well we say we do, but when we get it we want to turn back, we want to stay within the walls of our comfort zone.

Is it really THAT comfortable living at half-mast?

 

If we were to run with it, the fast-paced, passion-fuelled energy, we’ll be judged.

Reckless.

Not taking care of herself.

Wild.

Too “out-there”.

You know what I mean?

 

And what if we don’t? We don’t run with it.

What if we don’t go with the flow when it comes?

What if we push it down?

Don’t let it out? Read More

Stretching into Stillness.

Date: February 13, 2015

posted by kira jean / Comments: No Comments / Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , ,

Stillness is both one of our most desired and most feared things in the world.

We crave stillness.

We crave it like crazy.

We just want a break, a chance to take a breath and sit still for a second.

BUT… when we have the chance to, we run from it and get busy doing, well, anything.

Why? Because we’re not used to it. It feels really uncomfortable and awkward.

For me, I know I just feel guilty sometimes. I know it sounds crazy, but I feel like I’m being selfish if I rest, like there’s too many other things I should be doing.

For the past decade I have journeyed towards stretching into stillness. And by stretching, I mean it’s literally been a stretch for me.

It’s been a huge challenge, and required a lot of un-learning, a deep commitment, and a strong willingness to explore my own discomfort and fear.

What I’ve come to realise is stillness of the mind is what is needed more than anything. We know when we’re physically moving and expending energy, but most of us are unaware of how much mental movement is going on. We’re always thinking. Judging. Questioning. Analysing. And this is using up so much of our energy.

The first step however, is to physically stretch into stillness. I personally love to practice yoga. I stretch, bend, and twist my body, and expel a lot of the energy I have that would otherwise be scattered around during my day on a never-ending to-do list and a lot of unfinished tasks. Read More

Stretch girl, stretch.

Date: January 13, 2015

posted by kira jean / Comments: 1 Comment / Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , ,

Hey gorgeous!

This week has been a crazy one for me!

My husband and I have moved into our new home and while I love building a life within it’s walls I’ve been struggling to keep all my balls in the air, so to speak.  I’ve got so many things on the go.

I’ve been working on my book Soul in the City for what feels like forever now, and I finally feel like it’s almost ready to go out into the world.

This has been a massive stretch for me.

I’ve fought off a lot of resistance and had to dig deep to bring this book to life.

My perfectionist streak has reared it’s head one too many times, and I’ve had to be mindful of self-sabotage throughout the whole process.  It’s been a massive stretch, but one that I needed.

Speaking of being stretched, it’s the topic of this week’s v-log.  I really feel 2015 for both of us, is going to be a year of stretching ourselves.

You can watch this week’s episode of Kira in the Middle by clicking the video below. Read More

What’s Your Big Fear? The one that has a hold on you.

Date: January 3, 2015

posted by kira jean / Comments: No Comments / Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , ,

What’s your BIG fear? I mean really. What is it that scares the life out of you? It stops you in your tracks, you freeze up, close up, or run for cover.

What is it?

What is that fear?

The one that has a hold on you.

 

You probably don’t even know what it is. You have a lot of small fears, and those you could reel off to me without a problem. Those fears you can face. Because it’s easier. It’s easier to face those fears than face your really BIG fear.

You cover up your big fear in a bunch of small fears, to validate having a fear, but to avoid looking at the real fear too closely.

What is it about it that shakes you to your core?

What is it about that fear that makes you feel small, powerless, helpless?

What is your BIG fear?

What is it deep down that has a hold on you?

It makes you sick from the inside to even acknowledge it’s there.

You pipe up with all that resistance and defiance, and you probably want to scream at me right now, or simply dismiss me as someone who’s trying to stir up sh*t, stir up all that unnecessary stuff.

You know there’s no point in waking up the sleeping monster. What good will it do? Read More

Are you getting in the way of someone else’s healing?

Date: December 1, 2014

posted by kira jean / Comments: No Comments / Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , ,

I want to be completely honest with you.  I haven’t been serving you in the full capacity I know I can.  I’ve been hiding a little bit.  I’ve been playing it safe.  And it’s not working.  It’s not what’s right for me, and therefore it’s not what’s best for you.

I’m kind, reasonable, and calm by nature, but I’m also realistic, practical, and pretty good at telling hard truths.  So consider this a little warning.  :) Things are going to be shaken up here, and as a result bigger, scarier, deeper, transformations are going to happen!

One of the challenges we face is balancing our desire to help others and be of service with having our own personal boundaries, and an ability to stand back and allow another person to go through whatever it is they may be experiencing at that time.  I don’t say this as though I’ve mastered it.  It’s something I continuously work on.  As someone who works in the health and healing industry it’s so important that we understand the ways in which we can sometimes, unknowingly, interfere with another person’s healing. Read More

How to turn things around and take back control when faced with challenges.

Date: October 12, 2014

posted by kira jean / Comments: No Comments / Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , ,

Often our biggest challenge is not the actual challenge or problem we face, but our struggle to stay grounded, connected, and clear in our mind when we face it.

Challenges bring up all kinds of emotions and thoughts, and it’s often hard to separate ourselves from our emotional and mental tangle to look at the challenge clearly.

You make your wisest decisions when you are grounded in clarity and confidence, but certain thoughts and emotions can get in the way of that.

In today’s v-log I share with you my insight on something I have been struggling with myself, and I explain what simple tool I used to overcome my personal challenges, and become grounded in clarity and confidence again. Read More

Save time and energy: my top 10 tips for working (and living!) smarter

Date: August 11, 2014

posted by kira jean / Comments: No Comments / Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , ,

The world today is on high speed.

I’m not against the speed, I’m a fast mover myself.  If I have an idea, dream, or realisation I swiftly move towards making it happen, or at the very least taking steps towards it. Read More

The one sentence that will change your life.

Date: June 20, 2014

posted by kira jean / Comments: No Comments / Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , ,

Hello sweet thing.

In today’s vlog I share with you one sentence that will change your life.

Every day you are faced with having to make choices. Sometimes it’s not easy to make those decisions, and sometimes you aren’t always present in the moment to realise that you even have a choice! You go through your day on “autopilot”, doing things you always do, eating the same thing day in and day out, and not ever really being fully present in the moment. Read More